Psychological responses to becoming unemployed
Losing our job is probably one of the worst experiences we can suffer. Presently sudden layoffs are happening without much warning and the emotional consequences are devastating.
Out of the blue we feel stripped of the most basic need – security. How are we going to find the money to pay the mortgage/rent, buy food, clothes, pay electricity and phone bills, drive the car..? It can quickly become an endless and ever increasing nightmare.
Top tips for communicating within a healthy relationship
There are times when our anger boils over and we just say the first thing that comes into our heads. Even after
this type of blast there comes a time when we need to sort out the problem.
• First of all, don’t bury the problem, hoping it will go away, so neither of you can see it.
• Don’t run away from the problem so that you don’t have to face it with your partner.
• Don’t bargain with your partner and use another problem to put pressure on your partner about the
original problem, you’ll never sort it out
However, significant age gaps can raise some issues that need to be aired early in the relationship, according to Tony Moore, relationship counsellor with Marriage and Relationship Counselling Service (MRCS).
“There are no hard and fast rules about age and relationships but there are some issues to consider,” Moore says. “Couples of a similar age will have had shared experiences while growing up and, by and large, will have shared interests. Often, the bigger the age gap, the more significant the differences in terms of sex, interests, expectations, life stage and finances.
“At the start of a relationship these differences don’t matter. But when tensions emerge, as they will do in time, these differences will matter more and more,” he explains.
Although it’s tempting to throw caution to the wind when you’re in love, planning ahead is crucial in age-gap relationships.
“A lot of couples only think in the short term but it’s important to consider if the age difference will interfere with your own personal goals; whether you want to concentrate on your career, have children or spend your free time travelling,” warns Moore.
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When the moment of the revelation of an affair presents itself, it changes the relationship between a couple forever.
When the moment of the revelation of an affair presents itself, it changes the relationship between a couple forever. The betrayal, often non-sexual, can happen for many reasons, some which are listed below
On learning that they have been betrayed the non-affair partner will usually think in terms of the time before and the time after. Everything in their life becomes magnified and the ‘pea under the mattress’ now becomes a rock as they obsess about details of the affair; they can’t sleep, experience a huge array of emotions and lose all sense of normality.
Relationship counselling can be very useful for couples and individuals who have difficulties in their relationship and are committed to working at improving things so that they can stay together in better harmony.